Traditional Funerals ...
British funeral traditions are inherited from the Victorian era.
At that time, strict codes of conduct were understood by all levels
|Now that we have cross-cultural funerals
and a variety of belief systems, people feel able to create individually
tailored ceremonies. For that reason, it is important that attendees
are clearly guided in where to go, what to do, and how to pay
their respects in a meaningful and appropriate way. Your funeral
director, their staff, family members and a minister can all
help to guide mourners on the day.
As a mourner at a funeral based on a culture or religion that is
unfamiliar to you, ask friends or go online to research that particular
tradition. It’s not necessary to conform to dress codes, eg.
Hindu men wear white to a funeral, if you are European, you should
only wear Hindu dress if specifically requested. But it’s always
helpful to know in advance what is likely to occur so that you can
engage with the ceremony and its meanings on the day.
a comprehensive guide to contemporary British funeral etiquette,
with advice on everything from dress codes to Orders of
Service and how to be helpful to the bereaved.
An expert in etiquette, Emily Post wrote the following guide to
funerals and mourning in 1922. We have included this piece for historical
interest. Although her writing is addressed to wealthy Americans
in the 1920s, it includes many British dos and don’ts as remembered
by the eldest members of the Leverton family today. Click here to view the
Debrett’s also has section on death in which they advise
that children should not be excluded from the events surrounding
death. We have lots of experience in helping children to cope
with a funeral, so if you have any qualms about this, feel free
to discuss it with your funeral director.
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